Hi Guys,


So whilst driving to work I had some things running through my mind.

I was thinking about the fact that to be anything in this world you need to have some qualifications/experience, however there are some things that this doesn't apply to. One such instance "being a parent".

Now I am not saying that before you become a parent you have to go adopt X amount of kids and adequately care for them (would help in some instances).

I am more talking about how the court system works.

My partner (Miss K) has a child to another person.
This person doesn't have the qualification/experience/thought process to be a parent, none of this can be proved however, it is merely an opinion of mine.

I have seen his son in tears due to the fact that he gets no 1-on-1 time with his dad. A couple of examples below:

 - He once asked me why his dad lied to him (had only recently had a discussion on why lieing is bad) and said that it would only be his dad and him when they went out to a restaurant. His dad instead of spending 1-on-1 time with his son, decided that it was a good time for his current girlfriend and a few mates to come along as well. He tried to by his son of with a couple of matchbox cars.

 - He once was in tears due to the fact that he had gone to his dad's for the weekend ( something my partner tried to encourage him to be in his life more) and that his dad had left him for the night and let him stay with his Grandma (dad's mother). Whilst this time is good, it doesn't replace the 1-on-1 time between a father and a son.

Another couple of things that have proved to me that his own needs are put before his son's is the fact that he will not sign any documentation required to provide Master C with a passport (we weren't going anywhere at the time, just wanting to get stuff organised for if we wanted to).

Child support - Whilst we don't need the money to support ourselves, it does help. The way I see it is dad pays 50% mum pays 50% of everything. This isn't the way it works however, instead it's a $8 contribution (enough to buy 2-3 coffees if that). Why even bother CSA?? It takes two to tango so they say, so make it fair! Don't punish the one who does the right thing!!!!


The fact that this person is classified in the same group (being a father) that I am in now, really annoys me. I believe that I am 10 times the father that he will ever be/wants to be to his son.
Unfortunately he will always be classified as a father, unless he were to give up his right. He isn't going to do that though, his son is his trophy, his greatest achievement in life - It's the ACE card when picking up girls, the look at me I care about my son factor. That of which isn't true.

Now I am only a relatively new biological father, but I could never live with myself if I made my son cry for being selfish. It would tear me to pieces knowing that I have let him down. I don't ever want to see my son cry, I know that he will though!

Anyway enough of my rant!

Signing off Ryan!

Silver - Why Blizzard?

Hi Guys,

So this is a bit of a blog about another love of mine!
Gaming, it's something that I don't want to stop doing as it is extremely releases stress so easy (who would've thought that killing of other creatures in a game would do that).
Recently however it has caused my stress levels to rise due to one game that I play that of which is Starcraft 2. See what has happened is that I have been demoted down a league (probably due to in-activity) which if you read my last blog you will see why.

Gaming will never interfere with the bringing up of my children or the attention that I to pay to my partner, I can guarantee that fact.

It does take me back to the life I had before I met my partner/had children and I still enjoy it immensely, and this is why I still do it, also to release the stress as mentioned above.

I will focus on that last point "the life I had before", don't get me wrong I absolutely am loving life at the moment and I know that I will grow over the next few years into somewhat of a different person from my current self, however I also feel that I don't want to lose what I was just for the sake of it. I played games before I met my partner (probably due to not having a partner) and this gave me a different aspect of a social life (no not a nerdy guy with glasses) I drank/went out/did stuff. However I made some good friends playing games and that's the aspect that I don't want to turn my back on

Anyway I am getting distracted talking to an old mate, so I will leave it there for the minute.

Ryan!

Birth of a Doctor

Hi Guys,

So my first blog, it's strange writing in a dairy/journal and I swore till I was blue in the face that I would never have a blog!

How things change, I was actually going to start this on the 10/10/2011 (which is the birth date of my son), but things were kind of hectic that day and alas it didn't happen. Two and a bit weeks later and finally I have started the blog.

 I sit here with my son (let's call him Doc) looking at me. It still amazes me that I have another human being that is entirely dependent on me, well me and his mother (Miss K).

Every time Doc looks at me my heart melts a little bit, he is by far one of the best looking babies I have ever seen (takes after me of course and no I am not biased). I want to cherish every moment with him and at the same time cannot wait to see where his life takes him.

I call him Doc due to his first initials (D.R) and the fact that he could grow to be whatever he wants and will have the intelligence to get him there.

When he was born everybody said that it will be life-changing you won't know what hit you etc.. anybody who has had children will know what people say! Yes it was life-changing, but in a good way. It made me realise that, I wasn't only just becoming a dad, that I had been a Dad ever since I met Miss K.

See what I haven't talked about is the fact that Miss K has another child (Master C), to that of which I get the pleasure of helping bring up. I love Master C as if he was my own child and I treat him that way. Before Doc's birth I used to think I wasn't a dad, how wrong I was!

I am loving life at the moment and look forward to the joys that I will experience in the coming days/weeks/months/years, hopefully all of which shall be documented now that I have this blog.

Well I think that's enough for tonight, so I will sign off for now!

Catch you all on the flip-side

Ryan!