Hi Guys,


So whilst driving to work I had some things running through my mind.

I was thinking about the fact that to be anything in this world you need to have some qualifications/experience, however there are some things that this doesn't apply to. One such instance "being a parent".

Now I am not saying that before you become a parent you have to go adopt X amount of kids and adequately care for them (would help in some instances).

I am more talking about how the court system works.

My partner (Miss K) has a child to another person.
This person doesn't have the qualification/experience/thought process to be a parent, none of this can be proved however, it is merely an opinion of mine.

I have seen his son in tears due to the fact that he gets no 1-on-1 time with his dad. A couple of examples below:

 - He once asked me why his dad lied to him (had only recently had a discussion on why lieing is bad) and said that it would only be his dad and him when they went out to a restaurant. His dad instead of spending 1-on-1 time with his son, decided that it was a good time for his current girlfriend and a few mates to come along as well. He tried to by his son of with a couple of matchbox cars.

 - He once was in tears due to the fact that he had gone to his dad's for the weekend ( something my partner tried to encourage him to be in his life more) and that his dad had left him for the night and let him stay with his Grandma (dad's mother). Whilst this time is good, it doesn't replace the 1-on-1 time between a father and a son.

Another couple of things that have proved to me that his own needs are put before his son's is the fact that he will not sign any documentation required to provide Master C with a passport (we weren't going anywhere at the time, just wanting to get stuff organised for if we wanted to).

Child support - Whilst we don't need the money to support ourselves, it does help. The way I see it is dad pays 50% mum pays 50% of everything. This isn't the way it works however, instead it's a $8 contribution (enough to buy 2-3 coffees if that). Why even bother CSA?? It takes two to tango so they say, so make it fair! Don't punish the one who does the right thing!!!!


The fact that this person is classified in the same group (being a father) that I am in now, really annoys me. I believe that I am 10 times the father that he will ever be/wants to be to his son.
Unfortunately he will always be classified as a father, unless he were to give up his right. He isn't going to do that though, his son is his trophy, his greatest achievement in life - It's the ACE card when picking up girls, the look at me I care about my son factor. That of which isn't true.

Now I am only a relatively new biological father, but I could never live with myself if I made my son cry for being selfish. It would tear me to pieces knowing that I have let him down. I don't ever want to see my son cry, I know that he will though!

Anyway enough of my rant!

Signing off Ryan!